"I have a life changing decision to make. How do I make the best decision?"
Question: "I'm having a hard time making decisions. I feel stuck. I've been thinking about divorcing my husband. I keep saying I'm going to do it. But I don't. I don't know why I'm not going through with it. I've been thinking about it for over a year. Maybe it's because of my kids or fear. I have no idea. I've even been meditating to help me but it hasn't helped. How do I make the best decision for me?"
LisaM: You're having a hard time making this decision because you don't want to make a decision. You're feeling afraid. You're feeling fear of the unknown. You may be feeling regret that whatever decision you make is the wrong decision.
You're playing all these stories in your head and thinking about all of the bad things that will happen once you make a decision. And that's why you feel stuck.
I'm going to teach you a 'technique' or a 'tool' that will help you come with your own answer to your question and help you finally make your best decision.
You can even use this technique to help you make any other decision that you face.
But first, when you don't make decisions because of fear or fear of the unknown, doubt, what-if's and regret you're probably creating havoc on your health.
When you don't make a decision because of fear or doubt or any other negative emotion you're feeling, your body is processing your negative emotions.
If you're feeling stress, anxiety, doubt or any other negative emotion for a long period of time, your body could react by increasing your blood pressure, create disease, or cause depression, etc.
This can cause all sorts of havoc on your health.
So I encourage you to make a decision. Don't wait and let your negative emotions fester. Always make a decision.
Here's how to Make Your Decision. Use this Technique to Make Any Decision in Your Life.
Step 1: I want you to draw two large imaginary circles on the ground, in front of you, side by side. Each circle represents one decision. In your case, stay with your husband and divorce your husband.
Step 2: I want you to physically step inside the first imaginary circle.
Step 3. While you're in the circle, I want you to close your eyes. Now imagine that you've made the decision to stay with your husband. Imagine that everything goes perfectly. Your life is exactly as want it to be. Remove all your doubts and fears because you know that with this decision, everything is perfect. You are living your life with purpose and everything is aligned with who you are and what you want. This part is very important: Notice how you feel as you imagine your life, your future with your husband and everything working out perfectly.
Step 4. Now I want you to physically step inside the second imaginary circle. Close your eyes. Now imagine that you've made the decision to divorce your husband. Imagine that everything goes perfectly. Your life is exactly what you want it to be. Remove all your doubts and fears because you know that with this decision, everything is perfect. You're living your life with purpose and everything is aligned with who you are and what you want. This part is very important: Notice how you feel as you imagine your life, your future without your husband and everything working out perfectly.
Step 5. Physically step out of the imaginary circle. Step back to where you started.
Step 6. Make your decision. Based on what you felt as you stood in each circle and you imagined that everything worked out perfectly no matter which decision you made, which decision felt better? Which ever one felt (vibrated) the best inside your body, that's your decision.
Step 7. Love your reasons for your decision. ❤️ Your reasons can be ANY reason. They don't have to make sense to anyone else but you. Don't let people hold you back or sway you from making your right decision.
Step 8. Once you've made a decision, you stick with it. You see it through. Take action. Don't look back. Everything will work out perfectly.
Use this decision making 'tool' or 'technique' any time you have a decision to make. It works. It will help you remove fear, fear of the unknown and doubt from your decision making process.
Use this technique for any decision. Here are a few examples:
- Should I take the new job or stay at my current job?
- Should I buy this one or that one?
- Should we go here or there for vacation?
- Should I quit my job and start a business or stay in my job?
- Should we get married or not?
- Should we have kids or another kid or not?
- Should I ask for a raise or not?
- Should I ask her/him out or not?
- Should I go out with her/him or not?
- Should I stay married or get divorced?
- Should I hire this person or that person?
- Should I cut my hair or let it grow?
- Should I use this color or that color on my website? <- I used my decision-making tool on this decision. lol
Let me know if you use this technique to help you make your decision.
The takeaway: Remember, the decision you make is always your right decision. There are no wrong decisions.
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"Live an Inspired and Purposeful Life. Love the Life You Wake Up to Every Morning." (my mottos for me and you.)